Angry Black Woman – Part Two

My friend, Ben, linked my Angry Black Woman blog on his Facebook wall the other day. The first comment came from a gentleman (I use this term loosely) we shall call “Dean”:

I hate to say it, but when you stick a bumper sticker on your car and forcing your opinions down everyone’s throat then you’re challenging them to respond, and opinions are like arseholes: everyone has one, which means that arseholes are going to give you their opinions.

I hate to say it, but your friend threw down the gauntlet when she slapped on that sticker.

Wow. Just wow.

Yes, my bumper sticker is forcing my opinions down his throat. Because, you know, when you’re out and about it’s impossible to concentrate on anything else but the bumper stickers around you. Furthermore, he would have never normally use the word nigger; it’s my fault for having a political opinion and the gall to display it in the wonderful, red, Republican state of Georgia.

I guess I now have the right to attack people with Pro-Life stickers as “baby killers” and people with Eagles NFL stickers as “animal cruelty advocates,” and people with New England Patriots stickers as “douchebag supporters.”

I threw down the gauntlet, apparently, and said, “Please, everyone that doesn’t agree with me politically, I dare you to use hateful, disgusting, vile, racist names in front of my children.”

This guy is clearly a fucking asshole and I seriously doubt that he “hated to say it,” as he twice claimed.

Ben, God bless him, tried (at first) to get dickhead to explain himself and maybe (just maybe) redeem himself, but decided that was a waste of time and deleted the guy instead. Ben (who is white and married to a black woman) did what I would expect from any of my white family and friends when in the presence of such racial ignorance – he shut it down.

Since posting the last blog, I’ve decided I will no longer give a pass or shake my head politely when a white family or friend practices passive racism – not saying anything when surrounded my racist remarks spewed by their family and friends. So, please, I warn you: it’s no longer a good idea to tell me such things unless you want me to lose my shit. Unwillingness to stand up to it may be more dangerous than spewing it. I’m not naive enough to think that this will eradicate racism or racist remarks, but I think the fucktards should stop and think, “I wonder why every time I’m around my own and I use the word nigger, someone hands me my ass.”

I don’t think this is too much to ask of family and friends who are the right side of this. I really don’t. I’m not gay, but I have gay friends – one very dear to me. I don’t tolerate “fag” talk on my blog, Facebook page, and definitely not in my home. I will no longer entertain the, “Well, black/gay people get to say it,” debate either. I will tell you what I tell my 11-year-old daughter when she says, “Diana gets to do it!”

“Stop worrying about what everybody else does, and worry about what you do.”

Decide what you stand for, what you believe is right, and stick with it.

I’d like to think that Ben’s ex-friend’s comment was just poorly worded and that maybe it’s not really what he meant to say, but then I read this comment by a mutual friend of theirs in regard to the statement:

I actually went to de-friend Dean for this one, only to find he’d de-friended me first! Wonder when that happened… Probably about the time I pointed out his kid likely doesn’t gets in physical fights with teachers and bites other students DESPITE Dean beating the living shit out of him (for such infractions as ‘having a disrespectful tone’ on a phone call) as BECAUSE he does.

Regardless, Dean’s been given too much leeway over the years by folks due to his playing up to his comedy buffoon image. At the end of the day, this is still the same guy who claimed in the midst of Katrina to have friends in the New Orleans PD, that the deaths weren’t down to the floods and FEMA’s slow response but to black people turning on each other ‘like animals’ (his solution being,if I recall correctly, to fill the stadium with concrete with everyone inside). Naturally ye olde liberal media supressed this.

Dean’s a dick, is what I’m saying.

Anyway, I completely agree with your friend’s anger, Ben. The use of the ‘n’ word is just totally unacceptable. Racism SHOULD make people angry.

(and even leaving aside the distressing racism angle – a bumper sticker isn’t an open invitation for comment, any more than wearing an NFL jersey is a licence for strangers to come up to you in the car park and tell you your choice of team sucks. It’s just RUDE.)

He nailed it on the head. Dean’s a dick.